Do You Apologize When You Shouldn’t? A New Perspective

I did something recently. You’ve done it, too, I’m sure. Many times, if you’re at all like me, which I’m guessing you are. (Tell me I’m not the only one!) But before we get to the thing, let me set the stage. The new year prompted me to join “just a few” self-improvement challenges. (I […]

How to Enjoy A CALMER Life, Free From Decision Fatigue

We make a gazillion decisions each day. Or at least, it feels like we do. And the more decisions in a day, the worse our decisions are by the end of the day — the research backs me up on this. Following are 6 ways to defeat decision fatigue. The acrostic CALMER will help you […]

How to Celebrate Christmas with God in Mind

I wasn’t going to string the Christmas tree lights wrong again. I’d been deliberate in putting them away. And as I unpacked them, I thought it through: If I need the male electrical end to plug into the outlet, I have to start with the female end at the top of the tree. (Does your […]

Why Your Decision to Eat Less at the Holidays is the Wrong One

That was dumb! I can’t believe I did it again. I’d decided I wasn’t going to overeat at the holiday dinner — and I meant it! The day of the event, I was confident; this year was going to be different. I’d even noticed the cute pants in my closet and grinned to myself: Before […]

How to Make Fewer Decisions and Gain More Freedom

“No more questions! If I have to decide one more thing today, I’ll explode!” Another Mother of the Year moment. I can’t remember the question he asked, but I know it came at the end of an interminable day, which required excruciating decisions. Or maybe it capped off a humdrum day filled with no end […]

Do Easy Decisions Make You Feel Dumb? You’re Not Alone

How can this be? I’m a bright girl. I have lots to say. Some might even argue, “too much to say.” <ahem> So why can’t I decide what to write about?! I get so frustrated with myself. This should be an easy decision. 249 ideas float through my head, and my task: choose one to […]

The One Thing You Need to Do to Make Your Prayer Life Flourish

To say “ivy blanketed the landscape” conjures the image of a manicured English garden. No, the summer I yanked the overgrown invader from my new backyard, I uncovered a sculpture, a chaise lounge, and a 10-ft long fence from beneath its tangled vines. A formidable task, its reward was a blank slate on which to […]

5 Reasons You Don’t Want to Pray (and Why They’re Wrong)

I open the classroom door, and the hum of conversation surprises me. Of course! There’s an assignment due. Students aim rapid-fire statements at me as I approach the podium. “I didn’t understand #4.” “It didn’t make sense to me, either. “What about #7?” And my favorite: “A bunch of us discussed it online last night […]

How to Free Others From Past Mistakes: What My Cookbook Taught Me

The comment sears my heart, but instead of reacting, I laugh and excuse myself to check on the soup that doesn’t need checking. I squeeze my eyes to blink away tears as the comment ricochets through my brain. Is that the cookbook Kendra burned? It’s become Family Lore. Looking frantically for space, I had squeezed […]

The One Thing More Powerful Than Goal-Setting — How to Triumph in the New Year

The words taunt me: TODAY’S TOP 3: (What will make today a win for you?) Am I the only one? Or do the words in your daily planner poke at you also? Perhaps like you, I’ve read books and blog posts about setting goals. taken goal-setting classes. written SMART goals (Specific, Measurable, Actionable, Realistic, and […]