I looked at my reflection and saw the constellation of moles staring back at me.
“Aw, geez. Why did I have to get that trait from my grandpap?! Why couldn’t I have gotten some of his good characteristics instead?”
Have you ever wished a similar thing— that you didn’t have your mom’s nose or your dad’s build? If so, you’re not alone.
As I considered my grandfather’s many positive traits, I realized I do share some of them:
- I have his friendliness and his desire to look for the best in others
- His love of reading, learning, and history
- His ability to share his knowledge with others (he was a teacher, too!)
- I also fall asleep in public, sometimes in mid-conversation, just like he would.
But why did I have to get his moles?! Ick. (Also, please don’t let me get his ear hair!)
And then God gave me a mindset shift:
What if all those traits—the ones I like and the ones I could live without—were all coded on the same strand of DNA?
What if it’s not an accident that I have his positive qualities and a characteristic I’m not fond of?
More to the point, what if, when I got the DNA for the personality traits that made my grandpap the man I loved so much, the “mole DNA” came along for the ride? What if I couldn’t have acquired his positive traits without also getting this quirk?
It’s a fun theory—even if it may not be scientifically accurate.
It’s an interesting question: Would I trade in this “mole DNA” for clear, smooth skin if it meant I also had to give up the positive traits I acquired from him?
Put that way, no. I would not. I like the other characteristics I share with my grandpap too much.
What about you?
The next time you notice a trait you don’t care for — or even when you just don’t feel beautiful — ask yourself:
- Who might I have gotten this bit of DNA from?
- What positive traits did I inherit from them that I might not have if I wished away this unloved characteristic?
- Does this trait make me love my ancestor any less— or is it just a quirky part of who they are?
The Psalms tell us that, “in a fear-inspiring way, [you are] wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14). But it’s good to be reminded of that.
What you perceive as a defect could have been part of God’s purposeful design!