Tending the Garden

Growing Through God's Grace

On Shutting Down

Ever feel too crummy to do anything, but not crummy enough to be confined to bed? It’s a dangerous in-between zone for me. Because I feel lousy, but I tell myself I’m not that bad. And I’m not. Until I make pancakes for breakfast and then need to recover with a nap. Or until I [...]

Avoiding the Ugly Voice

I didn’t intend for the words to come out. Not in that way, anyhow. I really wasn’t upset about the glass bowls that now lay in pieces throughout the kitchen. But I was tired. And sick. I had worked all day and not gotten enough done and I knew that tomorrow I’d have to summon [...]

The Cure for the Perfect Life – A Book Review

Irony fills the air as I – once again – put fingers to keyboard. I’ve started writing this book review five times on paper, five hundred times in my head. But I just can’t seem to do it. I hate when that happens. It’s not that the words aren’t there. In fact, there are too [...]

Less Weeding, More Relaxing

My husband pulls me aside to take a quick garden tour before dinner. There’s a new dahlia blooming at the back of our third-of-an-acre yard he wants to show me. I grab my shoes and jacket to head out as the kids tease, “See you in two hours!” It’s true. We go out for a [...]

Celebrate Small Victories

Small victories is what we call them in our household. Those little (and sometimes not-so-little) things that don’t mean anything to anyone but us. Not only do we celebrate them, but we share them with each other so that we can celebrate them together. Dealing effectively with a student issue. Not getting rattled during a [...]

Room to Think

It’s a lazy Sunday morning. Before long I’ll open the blinds, signaling to the animals upstairs that it’s breakfast time. But for now it’s quiet. My husband is away for the weekend. It isn’t my preference but it ends up working out well. When you’re together all the time – which we are, living together, [...]

Home Alone

It turns out there are no boys in my household this weekend. None at all. Two went to grandma’s and one is at his dad’s. For those of you doing the math at home, that means I am all by my lonesome. Unless you count the dog and two cats. Which I do, because, can [...]

Rethinking the Five Love Languages

I like Gary Chapman’s book, The Five Love Languages. I really do. But there’s something about it that doesn’t sit well with me. A few somethings, actually. Chapman’s premise is that there are many ways to show love – five of them to be exact. We show love through physical touch, words of affirmation, acts [...]

Whose Responsibility Is It, Anyway?

I couldn’t make it to class last time. Did we do anything? It’s one of my all-time favorite student questions. Truly! When I was younger and more idealistic, it would infuriate me. Or provoke sarcasm. I stood up here lecturing for an hour and twenty minutes, but no, we didn’t do anything. Now I truly [...]

Prescription for Life – A Book Review

We all know what we should do for our bodies. It’s no mystery that moving more and putting fewer unhealthy things in our mouths is good for us. Bookstore shelves, magazine racks, and Google are filled with advice for getting fit. And it’s all the same advice mostly. The trick is in doing it. Still, [...]